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National Siblings Day: My Relationship with My Sister, Then and Now

On National Siblings Day (April 10), I’d like to honor my little sister, and the relationship that has grown and changed, just as we have, over the years.

Back then…

When I was a little girl I dreamed about having a sister. I dreamed about it so much that I believed it. I believed it so much that I told my kindergarten teacher I was going to be a big sister, only to get into trouble for lying. Then one day, not long after, it was true. My parents sat me down outside and told my 6-year-old self that I was going to be a big sister. The details are mostly a blur but I do remember a super cool shirt with “big sister” written in the middle and sparkly jewels all over it.

I remember, months later, being picked up early from school one day and I was so excited because it meant my baby sister had arrived! I remember holding my baby sister when mom and dad brought her home and showing her off to family and friends who came to visit.

Now…

We are both grown up and my dream has come true. I get to be the big sister to the most wonderful young woman and it is still exciting! I no longer have a cool sparkly shirt to show off my super important role in her life but being her big sister has shaped me into who I am today. Just as I was back then, I am still beyond proud of her. Now I brag about her and all of her accomplishments to anyone who will listen to me.

Back then…

We fought constantly. Over toys, over what game to play, over who won the game and who cheated. I remember pulling her hair and her scratching me. And I remember lots and lots of yelling.

Now…

We are adults, so we share constructive criticism instead of yelling matches. We actually care deeply about each other’s input and actively seek advice from one another. Instead of fighting over toys, we share clothes, accessories and make up. We still get a little rowdy shoving cake and icing in each other’s faces on holidays, but it’s for fun instead of out of spite.

Back then…

I remember teaching her all I knew. I remember teaching her to tie her shoes. Helping her learn to ride a bike. I remember reading to her at night just before bed. We spent countless hours at the kitchen table together doing our homework and building school projects.

Now…

I get to watch her teach my son all she knows! I love watching her help him with his words and colors. Hearing her read to him and try to teach him animal noises warms my heart. I know she will be there when it comes time to teach him to tie his shoes and ride a bike. Years down the line I am sure we will be sitting around the kitchen table again helping him with his homework and school projects, the three of us covered in glue and paint.

Back then…

We were sometimes each other’s only friend. Through two out-of-state moves and countless life challenges, we were always there for each other when no one else was.

Now…

That bond we forged as young girls who grew up together is stronger than ever. The bond between siblings, between sisters, is something so strong I can’t describe it. It is unbreakable. We know each other better than anyone else ever will and we will take care of each other for the rest of our lives.

Happy Siblings Day to everyone and an extra shout out on this holiday to the girl who made me a big sister! Please take some time today to connect with your siblings. And make sure your kids have a special day with their siblings, too!

 

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