“What are your hobbies and interests? What do you like to do?”
Does anyone else freeze for a moment when asked those questions? Do your eyes quickly scan the memory banks of your mind while searching for those long forgotten hobbies that are resting on the back burner because right now, in this very moment, the things that bring you the greatest joy aren’t things at all? Instead, they are tiny humans who fill your heart up to the brim while simultaneously stealing your joy on days that are a little too long?
After being rudely asked what my hobbies are by an intruder who obviously doesn’t have children and can clearly see that I have children, I come to and realize…
I don’t want to freeze or scan my mind anymore.
I remember my camera and how I held it as close to my heart as I do my daughter when her heart aches. I remember taking the time to read, and really read, something of interest and flying through a book just as quickly as my son flies off the couch and into my arms. I fondly remember the day trips and the road trips and seeing sights that I had never seen before just as lovingly as when I watched my children cup fireflies in their hands for the first time.
I’m a GOAL digger.
I want more. I want to feel more, see more, be more. I’m an advocate and a fighter at heart; I call out wrongdoings quickly and demand accountability while holding myself to the same standards.
Before I get started, though, I want to make it clear that any goal you make – even if it’s to get out of bed in the morning (because this has been hard for me in the past) – is a goal that is worth going after with everything you currently have in you. It’ll grow, Mama, it’ll grow.
Creating goals with soul is very important.
It can change everything about your life – literally everything. From your perceptions of the silver linings that others beg you to see, to the confidence within your step, or simply seeing the sunshine while basking in it if only for a moment.
I beg of you, Mama, create a goal for yourself to get yourself back. Design small goals that will bring you fast success and then progressively become bolder in your pursuit of youness.
But whatever you do, please, please, please make sure they are S.M.A.R.T. goals. They should be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and timely. Here is an excellent article about creating S.M.A.R.T. goals and it also provides a worksheet to assist you: SMART Goals.
You can write goals for anything…I promise you.
My first real, soulful, smart goal was to be more spontaneous with my best guy. It changed everything and within a week, we had driven to the other coast to dip our toes into the sand kissed by the Pacific Ocean.
This article from Forbes (Forbes Article) claims that goals will not only trigger different behavior and guide your focus, but will also sustain momentum, align your focus to your core beliefs (I can’t wait for these to grow and in some cases, resurface) while running towards self-mastery.
The next time someone asks you what you do for a hobby, I hope an answer slips through your teeth before you realize it’s coming out and I hope you shock yourself, Mama.
I hope you walk away with a sly smile because you’ll know, in that moment, that Mama’s got her groove back. Be a goal digger.
Throwing courage and stamina your way like confetti,