To my fellow moms: It’s time to start being a little selfish. Putting yourself first can be the most important thing that you can do for you and your family.
We are juggling so much these days and our self-care tends to take a backseat to everything else that “has” to be done. We make ourselves available to our kids, spouse, family, and career, but what about to ourselves?
As women, we are often told by others, directly or indirectly, that in order to be a good mom or wife that we have to take care of others and be self-sacrificing. Unfortunately, when we aren’t taking care of ourselves, we tend to be more stressed and less patient and available with others. This approach is not sustainable and eventually, no one wins. You can only ignore your needs and sacrifice yourself for so long before you fall apart or eventually blow.
Putting yourself first is not actually being selfish.
If you want to be a good mom, partner, employee, boss, sister, friend, then you have to make sure to take good care of yourself. You have to put your oxygen mask on first. If you don’t take care of yourself, then all of your other relationships can suffer. When you are thriving and taking care of your needs, then you are able to give even more of yourself to others.
We make sure that our kids have playdates, quiet time, exercise, education, healthy food, but what about us? How often do you take time for any of this for yourself? Let’s look at some ways that you can do this.
Ways to Prioritize Yourself
Do something for yourself every day
Take a little alone time for yourself every single day. We all need this time to decompress and recharge our batteries. Do you need some quiet time to nap or read a book? Get a massage or facial? Go for a walk or bike ride? It’s different for each one of us, so make sure that you tap into what you really need for yourself.
What fills you up inside and brings you joy? What do you really enjoy doing? Take some time to reconnect with yourself and identify the things that bring you happiness and then make sure to schedule them into your life often.
When you fuel your body with healthy foods, you will feel better and have more patience and energy. Plus, you will be a healthy role model for your family.
Exercising and moving your body will leave you feeling less stressed and in a better mood. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time, either. Taking even 15 minutes a day to move your body can result in positive benefits. Not only will exercising show your kids that you value your health, but you’ll be stronger and have more energy to play with them!
Create healthy boundaries
Learn to say no more, especially to the things that don’t add value to your life and end up stretching you too thin. You don’t have to attend every playdate, birthday party, girls night out, or work function. Everything is going to be ok if you say no! Declining an invitation can be hard for many women and can lead to a lot of guilt. I promise that it gets easier the more that you do it and the rewards can be so big!
Connect with friends
Having good social connections is one of the strongest predictors of positive health and overall well-being. Having close friendships can increase your happiness and self-confidence and give you a sense of belonging and purpose.
So, do you think that you could start taking care of yourself as much as you take care of others? Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean that you aren’t taking care of others. It only means that you will have more of you to share with the people that you care about. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Isn’t it about time that you start being a little selfish?