As a mom, writing to other moms, I feel as though this is a safe place to put my heart out there while speaking some hard truths, mostly to myself, with hopes that another mom will rise up because of them.
Y’all. I’m just going to get straight to it. Life is not a romance.
Sometimes we get this ideal image in our minds about how life is supposed to look. This romanticized life is full of zest and zeal, romantic moments that sweep you off your feet and make your heart stop. These moments create this burning desire within that only grows hotter as you move towards the flame.
But because life does not stand still, or go as planned 100% of the time, or dinner gets burned, or you’re too tired and touched out to have anyone else touch you, and because no one has perfected the art of not blinking, life can get messy and it can get real messy, real quick.
We fall into this comparison and competition trap that literally can steal the joy right from your soul.
STOP. Just STOP.
You are worthy and wonderfully unique. You have these incredible gifts that are individualized to you because you are an individual. And not a single other person on earth has them. In 2015, it was estimated that there were 7.346 billion people on earth; you are literally 1 in 7.346 billion. Think about how amazing that is for a second.
You are truly unique and so amazingly special.
When we sit there and compare or compete with one another, we strip ourselves of the very identity and gifts we’ve been given, have cultivated, and have shared. This takes away value not only from those gifts, but from our hearts while cheapening the very acts of love we’ve given to our family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers passing by. It’s no way to live and I’m taking the stand, today, to no longer follow that path.
I think inadvertently, at times, we spend too much time looking out the window as opposed to looking into our own.
We forget that we can create adventure and excitement in the mundane sometimes by simply shaking things up a bit. We also forget that sometimes those mundane moments are beautiful and just what the soul needed.
I can’t help but think of Matthew 6:26 when writing. In case you’re not familiar (trust me, I’m learning and had to look up verses — you’re not alone!), the verse is this: “Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”
Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.
Dont dwell on how this person is feeding their kid, how this person gets to stay home, or this person gets to work, or how much information this person knows, or what that person wears, or how they spend their money, etc. I say stop worrying about all of those things because I know for a FACT that all those phrases have slipped off my tongue and through my teeth as if they were any of my business to worry about to begin with.
You are incomparably unique, and the world, over 7 billion people, needs exactly what just you have to offer. I am far from perfect but am given grace every single day of my life. I can’t express enough gratitude for that.
Take a stand with me, today, to live fanatically fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
Please share your your stance with the hashtag #srqmomstrong today and let’s stand united!
In solitude I stand, #srqmomstrong,