Wanna get away?
I know every mom out there, if asked that question, would answer with a resounding, “YES!” Trouble is, vacation opportunities are few and far between, and many times “mom guilt” and anxiety will tell you that “Now is not the time,” “I don’t want to leave the kids”, or “I don’t deserve a break.” It would take super human coordination to find sitters, decide where the kids would stay, plan their meals, and pack for the kids while you are away — and then you have to pack for yourself and plan a vacation on top of it! It sounds a lot easier to just stay home.
Take your time & plan ahead
Just about a year ago, my husband’s good friend from college sent out his “save the date” for his wedding. We were excited thinking about the possibility of escaping to San Francisco for a kid-free weekend. However, the feelings of excitement quickly faded as I realized how long we would be away from our kids. I went back and forth for a few weeks with my decision on whether I would go with my husband, or stay home with my children.
Once I decided that I was going to go, I immediately wrote down a list of things that needed to tackled, who I would like to watch the kids, and a timeline to make sure I didn’t have to do all of these things at the last minute. We are blessed that both sets of grandparents live locally, and love spending time with our kids. But there were still times when our parents would be at work, or unable to watch them. Luckily, we were able to book one of our favorite sitters for those times.
Give yourself enough time to plan ahead and nail down the important details well before your trip. Knowing the childcare details early in the planning process will make planning the actual vacation much easier!
You can miss your kids and still have FUN!
The week leading up to our flight out to San Fran I was in panic mode. I didn’t want to pack, I didn’t want to look over our itinerary, I didn’t want to leave our kids. The week was a blur of ignoring everything that needed to be done and living in denial that the trip was creeping up on us. I was worried I would miss our babies too much to enjoy this trip. As silly as it sounds to me now as I type it, I even tried to convince my husband to cancel my flight.
I kept telling myself I would be fine once I dropped off the kids, that I would feel so much better. The “pep talks” were constant the days leading up to the inevitable “drop off.” Leaving was tough, but once we hit the road, it’s like our drive was a time machine. Suddenly, my husband and I were taken back to life before kids. We were free to enjoy a long car ride. There was no airport anxiety. We traveled without strollers, car seats, and diaper bags. The two of us laughed, talked, and walked all over central California. I am here to confidently tell you, you can miss your kids and still have a ridiculous amount of fun!
The benefits can be felt far beyond the vacation.
Since returning home, I feel refreshed, renewed, and ready to take on every aspect of motherhood. Taking the opportunity to get away made me feel like a new person, and a better mom. If you have the opportunity to go on a romantic vacation, a girls trip, or even a solo mental health getaway for yourself, take it! Figure out how to make it work, and make it a priority. You don’t have to go cross country, you can go right down the road. As long as you can find a place where you can sleep, shower, and eat in peace, I promise it will be worth it! 🙂 And if you find yourself in San Francisco, you can live out your childhood dream of hanging out at the Tanner residence on Brodrick St. !
(The “Full House” House!)